Monday, September 7, 2009

time management

Now that I am married I have become more aware of how I spend my time. During my first two years of teaching I was not so concerned with getting home right after school. Dont get me wrong, I loved coming home to Aaron. But there is something different about knowing I am going to home to my husband. Knowing that most of the time he is there waiting for me to come home.

The downside to all this is that I have become so involved at school that I do not get home until much later than I used to. I love what I do at school and do not want to give anything up, but everyday I have to keep in mind that I can not stay and socialize after cheer practice or games. I need to get home to my husband!

As humans we must treasure every moment we have with our loved ones. No one has discovered this infamous fountain of youth yet, so we do not have forever to spend with our family. Almost everyday I am reminded of this and I tell myself that I need to call my mom and talk to her, or that I need to send Aaron a quick email reminding him how much I love him. We may get in arguments with someone we love, and we may not always be happy with the way that person is acting; but we still have to treasure the amount of time we have to share our love.

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

is life really different?

Since the wedding day people ask me all the time what married life is like. I have to say that so far there are only a few things that are different from what they were before the wedding. There are a few obvious things like combined bank accounts, calling each other hubby and wifey, and we are a little more conscience of the decisions we make about everything.
Our conversations about having a family and where we should settle down to have a family have become more serious as well. I never understood until now how serious conversations like this really need to be and how much these decisions can change ones life. I said for a long time that I want kids and I want them now. And even now with one friend pregnant and another one is getting ready to start trying, I think to myself, "well how come I am not trying yet?"
I go through moments of being a tiny bit jealous and then moments of thinking "am I really ready to change my life so dramatically?" At this point I really dont know. I dont know if I am ready to interrupt our newlywed life. Is that ok to feel like that?
We have decided that a few things need to happen before kids come along, so it will be a while. We know that if God decides that we need a child sooner that He will provide us with one. But for now I will probably keep flip flopping with my feelings and I will provide as much love as I can for all my "kids" at school.

Friday, August 7, 2009

My Dads Song

Here are the lyrics to the song my dad had written for the father/daughter dance.

I cried the day that you were born, as I held you in my arms, for the first time.
I watched you grow through childhood woes, into this young mans, wife
(chorus)
I've seen you laugh, I've seen you cry, I've seen you fail, and I've seen you try.
I tried to keep you safe the best I could, But you're not my little girl, anymore

I gave you music, "Do you remember Kansas live?", I took you campin', and some fishin' we tried.
And we always had our favorite game, but"will you go play", just don't seem the same.
(chorus)

I held you back that year, you thought me a fool, be damn glad, you weren't home schooled.
I did my best to be your dad, I must be good, cause you didn't turn out half bad.

I've seen you laugh, and I've seen you cry.
To see you change, as the years go by.
One thing I know, I'll always be your dad, but you're not my little girl, anymore.
And this special note, for this young man, If you ever hurt his little girl, "On behalf of Steve's friends, I'm not afraid to go back to PRISON"

Friday, July 31, 2009

my favorite wedding memory


I have to admit that the one thing I was most nervous about when it came to the wedding reception was the father/daughter dance. My dad and I have never been the mushy feely type with each other. We get along and I know I can talk to him when I need to, but I am definitely closer to my mom.
Mom and dad would not tell me what song dad and I were going to dance to. I know dad wanted to be able to choose the song, so I allowed him that. We both knew that we did not want any of the traditional father daughter songs b/c those songs are just not us songs. So when it came time for the father daughter dance I braced myself for what ever song was going to come through those speakers.
Thats when dad said that he had a surprise for me. I saw one of our long time family friends getting his guitar out and going up on stage. I immediately started crying. Never in a million years did I expect dad to have some one perform for me! Then Dave started singing, not only was he performing for us, he was performing a song that he and my dad wrote just for me. How PERFECT! There were lyrics in that song that told stories from the day I was born up until now. I never felt closer to my dad than I did at that exact moment. I LOVE YOU DAD!!

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

ok, I am back!

once again, I have to admit that I have got to be the worst blogger ever!

The wedding has come and gone but not with out some incredible memories. My mom helped to make my wedding week one that will never be forgotten, starting with a bridal shower on Sunday.



The rest of the week was filled with getting more engagement photos, rehearsal dinner and casino night with the bridal party!




The day of our wedding I truly felt like a princess. My mom worked her but off to make it a memorable and precious day for us. I got to spend the day at the castle where everyone got their hair and makeup done while everyone else spent the day downstairs setting up. We dont have pictures from the wedding day yet, but they will be here soon!

I do not remember much after getting my bridal portraits done. Aaron says that we were at the reception for three hours, but I feel like it was only 30 minutes. I think everyone had a good time though, I know we did.

For our wedding night and the night after we stayed in a Camelot themed room, this room was amazing!





But, not as amazing as our room at Sandals Royal Caribbean in Jamaica! This is one trip that we are never going to forget, and we hope to go back some day. Here are a few pictures to enjoy:








Friday, May 22, 2009

Fireproof

A few weeks ago our Pastor suggested that we watch the movie "Fireproof" and observe the relationships in the movie. While this is a very cheesy movie and has some not so good acting we still enjoyed the message the movie was presenting.
In this movie a couple that has been married for 7 years is on the brink of divorce. The husbands christian father give him a book of written "tasks" that he must do for 40 days to try and save his marriage. These tasks are small things like doing something small and out of the ordinary (he decided to make her a cup of coffee which she happened to be in a hurry that morning and did not want it, so that made him mad!) A few days later his task was to create a romantic moment, so he went all out and created a very romantic dinner, and her response was telling him she did not love him.
Even though his wife kept rejecting him and everything he was doing for her, he still kept going. Every day he found something new to appreciate her for. He had his bad days and there were several days that he was ready to give up and just sign the divorce papers. But with the encouragement of his father he kept going.
One day his wife stayed home sick. The husband left to get her lunch to help make her feel better. She then revealed the book of tasks and asked him what day he was on. By that point he was on day 44, remember the book only has 40 days.
In the end the couple stayed together. They renewed their love for each other, worked on their communication and learned to appreciate each other more than they ever did before.
When you are with some one for a long time you become used to all their quirks and as time goes by your love for them should grow stronger. But if you start to feel something fall way, take a step back and take the time to remind yourself why you are with that person.
What made you fall in love with them? What about this person do you appreciate? What can you do for this person to show them you still love them? What in life have you sacrificed for them? What have they sacrificed for you!?
These are all questions that came to my mind while watching this movie. Every day I am reminded that even though I was picky and had high standards, I found the man of my dreams. I love him and appreciate him for everything he has provided for me. He has made me want to be a better person, and I am going to MARRY him!

Thursday, May 7, 2009

mistakes

I have got to be one of the worst bloggers ever. I completely forgot that I even had this thing until I was looking at our wedding website last night!

A lot has happened in the past few weeks. This past week has probably been the most eventful. We had to get our invitations done and mailed out before the price of stamps went up. We had already bought our stamps a few weeks ago, but we were not very proactive about getting the invitation assembled. So, Sunday and Monday nights were very late nights for us. Finally around 11:30 Monday night we sealed the last invitation and Aaron packed them up to mailed out Tuesday morning.

I was very excited about our invitations until Aaron calls me yesterday and tells me that we spelled cocktail wrong. How in the world did I spell that wrong, and how did I miss it?!?! I was so mad, and I am still a little mad. We spent some much time and money to make these invitations perfect and there is a word spelled wrong. AAARRGGHHH! Mom said that if that is the worst thing that goes wrong we are doing well. But I am still not happy about the situation. uugghh...

On Saturday I went in for my first official dress fitting. The dress looked amazing...but not so much on me. I still have some work to do to make it look better on me. Everyone says it will look fine, but I disagree right now. I got a little upset with myself for not trying harder to make myself look better for the past year and a half. But...then I have to remind myself that Aaron loves me no matter what :)

The next few weeks are going to be crazy. As of today we are 65 days from our wedding day. I am so ready for it to be here!!

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Waiting...

Waiting...that seems to be the only wedding thing I am doing these days. Waiting for the dress to come in. Waiting to pay more money to the vendors. Waiting for mom to send me updated pictures showing me what the centerpieces will look like. Waiting for my hair to grow long so that we can achieve the hairstyle I want. Waiting, waiting, waiting!

As of today we are 108 days away. I feel blessed that we have had the amount of time to plan that we have. As a result of allowing ourselves this amount of time we are not stressed with the planning. We know that everything is taken care of and we know what to expect come July. That being said, I dont like WAITING! I am so ready for July 11th to be here. I am ready to be married to the man of my dreams and move forward with our lives.

But alas, I must be patient. I had to wait 25 years for him to come into my life, I guess I can wait another 108 days to have him as my husband :-)

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Honeymoon is finally BOOKED!


For about two weeks we have been researching and comparing all of the Sandals resorts. After reading reviews and watching forums and comparing prices and actually creating a spreadsheet to compare them all, we finally decided on Sandals Royal Caribbean. Who knew that deciding on a honeymoon would take this much work! Maybe for some people its not, but there were certain things that we wanted and we needed to make sure we got what we want!

Now, we did book SRC, however going to bed Thursday night I thought we were booking Sandals Royal Bahamian in the Bahamas. That resort seems amazing, however it was the only resort that did not offer the horseback riding excursion. Aaron knew I wanted to ride horses in the ocean so on Friday he talked to the travel agent and after many phone calls he decided on a swim-up river suite at the Royal Caribbean. I am going to be able to walk out of the room and go directly into the water!!

I dont know what I am looking forward to more, getting married in a castle or having a super sweet honeymoon in Jamaica!

Friday, February 13, 2009

Feel Free To Say I Love You

Ok, so of course on Valentines Day some people have mixed emotions about the day. I would like to remind everyone of the original reason the Valentines Day exists.
NOTE: I did not write this, I did some research and this is what I found


As early as the fourth century B.C., the Romans engaged in an annual young man's rite to passage to the God Lupercus. The names of the teenage women were placed in a box and drawn at random by adolescent men; thus, a man was assigned a woman companion for the duration of the year, after which another lottery was staged. After eight hundred years of this cruel practice, the early church fathers sought to end this practice... They found an answer in Valentine, a bishop who had been martyred some two hundred years earlier.

According to church tradition St. Valentine was a priest near Rome in about the year 270 A.D. At that time the Roman Emperor Claudius-II who had issued an edict forbidding marriage.
This was around when the heyday of Roman empire had almost come to an end. Lack of quality administrators led to frequent civil strife. Learning declined, taxation increased, and trade slumped to a low, precarious level. And the Gauls, Slavs, Huns, Turks and Mongolians from Northern Europe and Asian increased their pressure on the empire's boundaries. The empire was grown too large to be shielded from external aggression and internal chaos with existing forces. Thus more of capable men were required to be recruited as soldiers and officers. When Claudius became the emperor, he felt that married men were more emotionally attached to their families, and thus, will not make good soldiers. So to assure quality soldiers, he banned marriage.
Valentine, a bishop , seeing the trauma of young lovers, met them in a secret place, and joined them in the sacrament of matrimony. Claudius learned of this "friend of lovers," and had him arrested. The emperor, impressed with the young priest's dignity and conviction, attempted to convert him to the roman gods, to save him from certain execution. Valentine refused to recognize Roman Gods and even attempted to convert the emperor, knowing the consequences fully.
On February 24, 270, Valentine was executed.

"From your Valentine"
While Valentine was in prison awaiting his fate, he came in contact with his jailor, Asterius. The jailor had a blind daughter. Asterius requested him to heal his daughter. Through his faith he miraculously restored the sight of Asterius' daughter. Just before his execution, he asked for a pen and paper from his jailor, and signed a farewell message to her "From Your Valentine," a phrase that lived ever after.


Valentine thus become a Patron Saint, and spiritual overseer of an annual festival. The festival involved young Romans offering women they admired, and wished to court, handwritten greetings of affection on February 14. The greeting cards acquired St.Valentine's name.

The Valentine's Day card spread with Christianity, and is now celebrated all over the world. One of the earliest card was sent in 1415 by Charles, duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was a prisoner in the Tower of London. The card is now preserved in the British Museum.




So, as you can see the reason we have Valentines Day is kind of sad. I think we need to take this day and be thankful that we are allowed to announce to the world who we love and that we are able to publicly show that love. I dont know about anyone else, but if I had to hide the love that I have for my fiance, I would go CRAZY!
So, instead of getting upset because your significant other forgot to send you flowers or get you a gift of some sort, be thankful that you are allowed to love who you choose and that you are not forced to hide those amazing feelings.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Honeymoon!


For awhile now Aaron and I have been trying to figure out if we would be able to afford a honeymoon or not. Aaron has had this dream of going to Sandals since he was 12 years old, but what he didn't understand when he was 12 is how expensive a Sandals trip can get! So after several conversations we decided that we would wait and see how much we got back from Uncle Sam this year; what ever we got back would determine how much we could spend on a honeymoon. Well much to our surprise Uncle Sam decided to bless us with an amazing honeymoon this year:) Now the only problem is finding a flight that doesn't have FOUR layovers! Who really wants to spend the first two days of married life in an airport?!?

So far we have been very blessed to have the means to do everything we want for this wedding. I know that we can do things for a lot cheaper than what we are. But almost every girl has a dream of having a Cinderella wedding and before Aaron and I were even engaged I knew we needed to start saving money in order to get what we wanted. There have been some sacrifices along the way and definitely some compromises! This whole journey has proven to be a test for Aaron and I financially and has taught us financial responsibility that will only help us later in life.

Now we are off to plan an awesome honeymoon to celebrate our commitment to each other!

Thursday, January 29, 2009

I hate addresses

Aaron and I have been busy collecting addresses for the past couple weeks. That part has not been to bad...however, every time we go to enter a new address for someone we realize that we forgot someone else. UGH! That is the part I hate! So then we sit and discuss whether or not we should invite some one. I finally decided that if I have not talked to you in the past year, there is really no reason I need to invite you (with the exception of family members).

I feel that if I am going to have people participate and witness our special day that we should have had a better friendship/relationship over time. There are people I went to college with that probably don't even know that I am getting married, or that I even have a fiance, so they probably wont miss anything by not being at the wedding right?

Oh, but now I feel bad even after typing that...but really, I cant afford to buy more invitations or to feed more people...

I just have to remind myself every time I get distracted by who I should or shouldn't invite, or by how much the decorations are going to cost or how much food people get to get, that the wedding day is meant for one thing: Aaron and I pledging our love for each other and that is all that really matters. No matter who is invited or how much shrimp one person eats, Aaron and
I will still be married.

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Long and successful day

Today was a day set aside for making some wedding decisions. We had to go put deposits down on the bridesmaid dresses. However, I knew the one I had chosen back in December was not one I was extremely happy with. It was one I settled on, but it was not really what I wanted. That dress was a tea length dress and I wanted a full length dress. So I went in today to take one last look to see what I might find. I found a full length dress that is very elegant and I am much happier with it!

In addition to the bridesmaid dresses, I was also on a mission to find our flower girl dress. And let me tell you, I have the most adorable flower girl that exists on this earth! Her mom, Rosemond, was a good sport today as well. She was a model for the bridesmaid dresses that I was looking at; and I think her and her daughter Grace have a career in modeling ahead of them :-). Grace made every dress we put on her look absolutely adorable.

After playing dress up for a while I went out with Katy, who is singing at the wedding, to find the accompaniment track for the song she is going to sing. The first sample we listened to sounded like a cheesy 80's keyboard song. Fortunately there is a new version off the song and it sounds amazing! Katy has this angelic voice that is going to be perfect for our wedding :-)

Now, we have the big chore of typing in addresses for our save the dates and invitations. This is going to be one tedious task!

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

I'm Back


Ok, so I am apparently not very good at this blogging thing. I actually forgot had this thing.

The past few weeks have gone by so FAST! And I have a feeling the next 6 months are going to go by even faster. We are 179 days away from the big day...its a bitter sweet feeling. I cant wait for the day to be here, but then again I don't want the day to just fly by either.

We went to both Colorado and Nebraska for our Winter break. Colorado was cold and it would not stop snowing. It had to snow at least 4 feet while we were there. Then we flew off to Omaha (after spending 12 hours in the airport on Christmas day) and it was non-stop wedding planning for the next 7 days. We did take a break and got my dad to go see a movie for the first time since I was in grade school; but other than that it was wedding, wedding, wedding. There are just so many decisions to be made for weddings, many of which I just want some one else to make!

We finally have deposits down an all the major parts of the wedding; the location, the dress, the cake, the videographer and the DJ. Now we just have to figure out a way to pay off the balances! This wedding stuff is expensive...we have learned that we have to start cutting things so that we can make everything else happen. Our horse and carriage is one thing that we had to let go, which makes me VERY sad, but I guess there are just some sacrifices that I have to make if I am going to get everything else. :(